Solemnizatn and such

I for one dread this kinda event, mostly becoz of the pity shit that I dont need, that I get from some "caring" family members.
Those that know me personally know im a free happy soul.

Mostly I dread sbb kena dress up. Kali ni mother of the bride requested everyone to wear white. Well, the only white article I have is my own baju nikah and in effort not to over-shadow the bride, I found yg ini.

I dont see the need in having to go out there just to buy something for the nite. No, im not that sorta person. I buy what I want, when I want.

White shirt, burgandy jeans.. nice black watch, cray shoes. Im still within the thema they chose. Just the versatile sort. And thank god for my gun, that's my perfect alibi.

To the beautiful bride and groom,
Yang penting bukanla hari perkahwinan tetapi mengekalkan perkahwinan itu.
So im gonna doa for a long life happiness, together, forever. Ameen.

Incident-al.

Incidents.
Sometimes it is a muse just observing and seeing the way people react towards Jules and I. Im glad Jules have the same sense of humour so we can both laugh at it, and say... chomei.. *these straight ppl.

Streties.
Streties have evolved into the cooler, more understanding species. I have friends who started questioning the change in my FB account. These and that. I've also friends knowing my whole life story, and come to accept the present part of it.

Sometimes they dont understand, and then they try to and make up their assumptions based on the amount they can accept and comprehend, and Jules and I find that cute.

Incident 1 - Tagging tak ikut standard yg ditetapkan. (Is there one to begin with?)
Jules have a sweet co-worker called Zoey. Zoey is genuinely nice. I know so from the stories Jules have told me. Zoey acknowledges Jules as a bro. She drops comments such as "awak sgt hansem hari ni". Typical gals comments. Then came the day Jules introduced her to me.. and so, I walked up to them and looked at Zoey.. "hi you must be zoey?" She said hi, i intro-ed myself, shook her hands and like lightning zoey made an exit to leave for home.

Then the next day, she told Jules how shocked she was because we looked alike. She din even hear my name when I intro-ed my name. Wow. We look alike ke?

And suddenly it hit me, she meant alike as in same polarity! She was expecting a girly girl, until she met me. It shocked her and prolly she cudnt comprehend and digest that much, so she made her exit. So chomei kan?

We'd give her time, she'll figure.

Incident 2 - Curious, unsure of tagging.
Jest enters the toilet, my sporty spice friend spots me..
Sporty spice: "Eh Jest, do u wanna join the walk by N3stl3?"
Jest: *thinks and hear.. a walk? "A walk"
SS: Yea, its a walk. U can bring ur son to join in and that "one" you always take picture with.
Jest: *lol "It has a name you know"
SS: what's that one's name.
Jest: Her name is Jules.
SS: Yea all your pix u post online must hav her and your son. Who is she ahr?
Jest: *i swear i cud say that is my bride but instead "she is my best friend"
SS: Oh, always must have her wan.. u guys stay nearby izzit?
Jest: *yea we share a bed and at times... "something like that" and continues to talk about N3stl3 walk then.

SS was just trying to accept it, or curious. And an invitation to join similar activity means she is ok with it.

Streties chomei.
The genuine ones ask you stret to ur face.
Those that wants a gossip will ask your friends.
You will come to know which is which soon.

If you think your label of dating gets the "eyes" from ppl around.. lol what till you see us, even gay couples stare at us!

Meloney and Baloney

Walking my sister's big Tony Meloney at the dog's park.

That was how the weekend started.

Or the idea of it, because Tony is such a blob, it was more like we carried him around.

Jules, Trixy and I agreed we shud get him one of the dog stroller's.

He is minimum 7kgs and having to carry him, in his cage is NO JOKE!

Today we did the same, only all three us boys did the walking.

Prior to that we ran errands.

Max' birthday is coming. We got us party pack goodies for an unbelievable price.

A toy item that is being sold for rm 5 at the mall, we got it for rm2 at wisma kenanga.

Jules and I both did a jaw drop as we walked out of the shop!

Kakak indon yg jual tuh igt kitorg niaga! 

Oh well, im glad I have frens who knows where to get what.

Im done with almost everything except his cake!

Kes gaduh dgn mom pasal slipa crocz Max pun dah settle.

The modern granma try to control everything.

When I questn about nenek controlling how she brought us three gals up, she sentap.

But I am well aware she wants the best for max.

So I focus on her good intentions.

So tonite, Jules and I will be happily curled up.

Knowing we completed our tasks for today.

Jules baby,

Kasut ayg we carik at ave k or klcc.

sama2 kay ayg?

S Health says we all walked a handsome 10060 steps today!

Yeay!

Happy Monday fav jestians!

Hah, ni dier tony meloney who feeds on baloneys..

Gloomy Friday

Today is one gloomy friday.
Like nature knew about grief.. it was mourning.
I saw the orphans, at such young age having to go through loss of a parent.
It is painful to watch, I can only imagine what the child goes through.

I prayed to Allah in my heart that Max will not have to go through that, inshallah.

Separation is already big enaf of a dugaan I have put him through.

I am in fact trying to be the best mom and dad I cud be for him.
Jules is being amazing by being both to him too.

In everything we do, our travel plans.. our weekend plans..
We have made ammendments to suit his capability.

But Im pretty much confident we will succeed.

For one, he can almost recide the Al-fatihah, knowing that Isyak has 4 rakaat, and knowing the sequence to prayers at age 5 are some of the indications that we are doing alright.

I still have to teach him to ride a bike, send him for taekwondo classes are two of the many steps I have to take give him the best.

Truth is, life is a journey.
I stopped complaining about the things I dont have but rather look at the things Im blessed with. Alhamdullillah.
For what others should do, I started doing.

I realise, I will gain more, as in I would be closer to my son more than ever.
Plus see him grow into a beautiful person.
At the end of the day, it is his happiness that matters.
And with that Im happy.

Ruff-necking

I was offered to go to Turkmenistan today.
For a week.
Site-visiting one of the offshore platforms Im working on.
I would receive survival allowances, and allowance to buy clothing to fit the weather.

After many thoughts, I declined.
Sadly, Turk is one of those country that to my opinion has sexism issues.
And sexism exist becoz of the people's mentality.

All woman have to be escorted by a male, and on the contrary of you were found alone wt a male, then God knows what will happen.

A friend of mine was recently posted there.
I like wanted to go yolo and visit him, until he told me on his second nite, police raided his home wanting all expat in their homes by 11pm.

I then had to forgo my yolo.

Then came this offer today.
My very fear is being kidnapped.
My life is not so much of my worry.

It's those I leave behind.
Max.

Having said that, I convinced myself:
- My SAFETY passport expired back in 2008.
- I would have to go tru another crazy BOSET, which stands for Basic 0ffshor3 Satety Escape Training. And HUET - Helicopter Underwater Escape Training. Yada yada
- Been there, done that.
- Im too "young" for this.

With that, I walked into my co-worker's room and declined politely.

To conclude, my ruff-necking days are over.

Lil Things

There are lil things about her that awes me.
It's those lil things she does.
And notice.

She is sweet that way.
And oh-so-cute.

Many weekends ago, I found my toothbrush being changed.
My almost the same orange toothbrush was replaced with another, only with straight solid bristles.
You see I work hard in everything.
Gosok gigi pun pulun.
Habis kembang berus gigi.
I procrastinated the change because I just did, less than a month ago.

Prolly out of pity, looking at that miserable toothbrush, Jules bawak the almost same looking one, and changed it without telling. Like secretly.

So there was me, nak berus gigi. Asal solid je...
And when I asked, she admitted to it.
I just smiled.

Then there is today, when she noticed our periods were less than 24 hours apart.
That's a lil twisted.
But I find it sweet.
The sweet kinda twisted.

Dalam banyak2 girl kat dunia ni,
Nothing can replace the sweet lil things you do or notice about us.

Like I said, I demand your soul.
That is something more expensive than just money.
I can find money. I dont need a better half to do it for me.

It's these lil things..
It's soul baby.

And that's why it's called soulmate.
Not moneymate.

Kiss the rain

It was raining all through lunch today.
Something about the rain that brings peace to me. Prolly the scent of the rain. Or the sound of it. I feel blessed.

I was not stucked. But I pretended like I was, with a bunch of others from the building next door.

Maybe I was pretending to wait for you.
Maybe I just missed you.
So, I decided to just kiss the rain.